Both my children are so tired and tense, I wonder if it wouldn't be better for each of us to spend our own Christmas alone. Last year, trying to get together and get along, was a sh*tfest, and I know how easily things can get really ugly around here. It would be better if we got to sleep in and take our own times with the day.
From the gifts angle, I can deliver theirs whenever it's convenient, or hold them here for pick-up. As I say every year, I doubt they will have gotten me anything. They never even ask what I want. Until you read otherwise here, assume that on any gift-giving occasion, I will not receive anything. I am ashamed to have brought up such inconsiderate people. They are both so wonderful in so many ways, but they rarely, if ever, see beyond their own noses. It is hurtful and disrespectful, and they are both old enough to have "grown out of it," if that were going to happen.
At any rate, I have bought myself a little something every month this year, wrapped it, and put it away, so I will have things to open Friday. And all but one of them will be a surprise! (I remember one thing I bought --- the rest, not so much.)
Buddy and Madeleine are "holding steady" and "doing fine," respectively. She is pretty quiet, at least until it's time to eat.
(Obviously, it's not feeding time here.)